CoDA Personal Bill of Rights in Recovery

By Codameetings.com — May 19, 2026

CoDA Bill Of Rights

Today, I remind myself that recovery gives me permission to return to myself. I do not have to earn my worth by pleasing, rescuing, fixing, controlling, or disappearing. I have the right to feel, to speak, to rest, to ask, to say no, and to choose peace.

My needs matter. My boundaries matter. My voice matters. I can love others without losing myself. I can care without carrying what is not mine. I can be kind without betraying myself.

In recovery, I am learning that I am allowed to exist as I am: imperfect, growing, healing, and worthy.

Bill of Rights in Recovery

I have the right to be treated with dignity, respect, and kindness.

I have the right to feel my feelings without shame, judgment, or apology.

I have the right to say no without explaining, defending, or over-justifying myself.

I have the right to say yes only when my yes is honest, willing, and free.

I have the right to change my mind.

I have the right to make mistakes and still be worthy of love.

I have the right to ask for what I need.

I have the right to have wants, needs, dreams, limits, and preferences.

I have the right to set boundaries, even when others do not understand them.

I have the right to walk away from conversations, relationships, or situations that feel unsafe, abusive, or harmful.

I have the right to not rescue, fix, manage, or control other people.

I have the right to let others be responsible for their own feelings, choices, behaviors, and consequences.

I have the right to take care of myself emotionally, physically, spiritually, financially, and mentally.

I have the right to rest without guilt.

I have the right to take up space.

I have the right to be heard.

I have the right to speak my truth with honesty and compassion.

I have the right to not know the answer.

I have the right to ask for help and support.

I have the right to recover at my own pace.

I have the right to protect my peace.

I have the right to choose relationships that are mutual, respectful, and emotionally safe.

I have the right to stop abandoning myself in order to be loved.

I have the right to grow, heal, change, and become more fully myself.


Reflection Questions

  1. 1. Which right is the hardest for me to believe today?
  2. 2. Which right do I often give to others but deny myself?
  3. 3. Where in my life do I need to practice saying no?
  4. 4. What boundary would help me feel safer, calmer, or more grounded?
  5. 5. How can I honor one of these rights this week?