CoDA Personal Bill of Rights in Recovery

Today, I remind myself that recovery gives me permission to return to myself. I do not have to earn my worth by pleasing, rescuing, fixing, controlling, or disappearing. I have the right to feel, to speak, to rest, to ask, to say no, and to choose peace.
My needs matter. My boundaries matter. My voice matters. I can love others without losing myself. I can care without carrying what is not mine. I can be kind without betraying myself.
In recovery, I am learning that I am allowed to exist as I am: imperfect, growing, healing, and worthy.
Bill of Rights in Recovery
I have the right to be treated with dignity, respect, and kindness.
I have the right to feel my feelings without shame, judgment, or apology.
I have the right to say no without explaining, defending, or over-justifying myself.
I have the right to say yes only when my yes is honest, willing, and free.
I have the right to change my mind.
I have the right to make mistakes and still be worthy of love.
I have the right to ask for what I need.
I have the right to have wants, needs, dreams, limits, and preferences.
I have the right to set boundaries, even when others do not understand them.
I have the right to walk away from conversations, relationships, or situations that feel unsafe, abusive, or harmful.
I have the right to not rescue, fix, manage, or control other people.
I have the right to let others be responsible for their own feelings, choices, behaviors, and consequences.
I have the right to take care of myself emotionally, physically, spiritually, financially, and mentally.
I have the right to rest without guilt.
I have the right to take up space.
I have the right to be heard.
I have the right to speak my truth with honesty and compassion.
I have the right to not know the answer.
I have the right to ask for help and support.
I have the right to recover at my own pace.
I have the right to protect my peace.
I have the right to choose relationships that are mutual, respectful, and emotionally safe.
I have the right to stop abandoning myself in order to be loved.
I have the right to grow, heal, change, and become more fully myself.
Reflection Questions
- 1. Which right is the hardest for me to believe today?
- 2. Which right do I often give to others but deny myself?
- 3. Where in my life do I need to practice saying no?
- 4. What boundary would help me feel safer, calmer, or more grounded?
- 5. How can I honor one of these rights this week?
