CoDA Compliance Patterns
CoDA Compliance Patterns
CoDA Compliance Patterns
- checkBelieve people are incapable of taking care of themselves.
- checkAttempt to convince others what to think, do, or feel.
- checkFreely offer advice and direction without being asked.
- checkBecome resentful when others decline their help or reject their advice.
- checkLavish gifts and favors on those they want to influence.
- checkUse sexual attention to gain approval and acceptance.
- checkHave to feel needed in order to have a relationship with others.
- checkDemand that their needs be met by others.
- checkUse charm and charisma to convince others of their capacity to be caring and compassionate.
- checkUse blame and shame to exploit others emotionally.
- checkRefuse to cooperate, compromise, or negotiate.
- checkAdopt an attitude of indifference, helplessness, authority, or rage to manipulate outcomes.
- checkUse recovery jargon in an attempt to control the behavior of others.
- checkPretend to agree with others to get what they want.